Hvem ser du i speilet ditt?

 
 
Lyset bølger uavbrutt mot den blanke flaten. Det absorberes ikke, det reflekteres tilbake. I en voldsom fart. Det borer seg gjennom senehinnen og hornhinnen. Irisen leder det videre gjennom pupillen til linsen. Og der, bakerst i øyet, dukker bildene opp på netthinnen. Bildene av deg. Speilbildet ditt. Den du ser.
 
Når barn ser seg i speilet, smiler de gjerne og prøver ut nye, morsomme grimaser. De opplever speilbildet som spennende og nytt, og det vekker glede og begeistring. Dessverre endres magien gradvis med årene. Vi begynner å knytte assosiasjoner til speilbildet. Vi analyserer opplevelsen av oss selv, og hvordan andre opplever oss, og vi tilegner oss egenskaper som ikke vises i speilbildet. Noen inntrykk forsterker vi, andre inntrykk overser vi. Speilbildet viser ikke lenger vårt sanne jeg. Vi erstatter bildet i speilet med vårt indre selvbilde. En smeltedigel av følelser, tanker og inntrykk om oss selv.
 
Normalt har vi en tendens til å glemme det som skjer med oss, særlig det negative, og det gjør at selvbildet vårt må vedlikeholdes. Hvem vi omgir oss med, og hvilke tilbakemeldinger og reaksjoner vi mottar, har derfor viktig påvirkning på selvbildet vårt. Vanligvis foretrekker vi å legge mest merke til reaksjoner hos dem som bekrefter selvbildet vårt, samtidig som vi prøver å unngå reaksjoner hos dem som utfordrer det. Noen mennesker styrker vår selvtillit og selvrespekt, mens andre svekker vår tro på oss selv og vårt menneskeverd. Omgås vi mennesker som gir oss ubegrensede mengder med ros, kjærlighet og trygghet, bygges et robust og godt selvbilde.
 
Som med alt annet, er overdrivelser sjeldent å anbefale, og et overdrevent godt selvbilde er ikke noe unntak. Den som kanskje er mest kjent for sitt overdrevne selvbilde er Narkissos, en ung og pen mann i den greske mytologien. Til tross for sin påfallende arroganse var han beundret for sin skjønnhet, og en dag ble den forheksede jenta Ekho forelsket i ham. Hun kunne bare gjenta siste ord av hva andre sa, og dette irriterte Narkissos så mye at han nektet å gjengjelde hennes følelser. Gudene likte ikke dette og straffet ham til å bli forelsket i sitt eget speilbilde. Slik skulle han selv oppleve å elske noen han aldri kunne få. Narkissos døde da han prøvde å kysse seg selv i speilbildet han så av seg selv i vannet, mens stemmen til Ekho fortsatt kan høres fra skog og fjell. Myten om Narkissos overdrevne selvbilde har også gitt navn til samlebegrepet narsissisme, ofte beskrevet som selvkjærlighet.
 

(Teksten fortsetter under bildet)Michelangelo_Caravaggio_065«Narkissos» av Caravaggio
Galleria Nazionale d’Arte Antica i Roma

 
Noen vil kanskje påstå at det generelt er forskjell på hvordan menn og kvinner opplever selvbildet sitt. Underforstått at noen menn tror de er bedre enn det de faktisk er, og at noen kvinner ikke tror de er så gode som de egentlig er. Farlig påstand selvfølgelig, men dersom det er noe hold i dette, kan det kanskje skyldes at kvinner er flinkere enn menn til å gi ros, kjærlighet og trygghet?
 
Refleksjon er ikke bare lys som speiles fra en blank flate, det kan også være inntrykk og tanker om oss selv, og hvordan vi tror andre oppfatter oss. Felles for begge typer refleksjoner, er at jo mørkere det er, jo mindre refleksjoner blir det.
 
Et godt valg i hverdagen er å reflektere over eget speilbilde.
Er du en lyskilde for andre?
 
 

 
 


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