How are you, egentlig?

 
I baren på det gamle ærverdige hotellet står en sjarmerende og elegant ung mann bak disken og serverer gjestene sine. Han ser ut til å være i midten av 20-årene og er imponerende veltrent i sin hvite skjorte og trange vest. Han slenger lett på luggen i det han beveger seg bort til den litt eldre damen som nettopp har satt seg på en av barkrakkene.
 
“Good evening, ma’am”, sier han selvsikkert og smiler imøtekommende. – “How are you?”
 
“Thank you, just fine”, svarer hun, mens hun ser ned i vesken sin og tydeligvis leter etter noe.
 
“Oh, it´s a pity, just fine?” erter bartenderen med glimt i øyet og forsøker å få øyekontakt med henne.
 
Den allerede oversminkede damen har fortsatt blikket nede i vesken sin når hun fisker opp leppestiften sin for n´te gang denne kvelden. Hun ser sliten ut.
 
“Dry white wine, please”, sier hun lavmælt. – “And a glass of still water”.
 
Bartenderen smiler fortsatt. Han har sett det mange ganger tidligere. Han snur seg og henter en ny flaske Chablis.
 
Jeg sitter i andre enden av baren og hører alt som blir sagt. Svaret hennes blir hengende i luften som en gåte. “Takk, bare bra”? Hvorfor svarer hun det? Det er ikke det at spørsmålet til bartenderen er retorisk som forundrer meg. Det som er rart, er at hun sier “bare bra”. Hun ser da ikke slik ut? Hun ser fortsatt ned, som om hun prøver å skjule ansiktet. Hun er alene. Kommuniserer ikke.
 
Hvorfor svarer hun ikke hvordan hun egentlig har det? Er det standardsvaret hennes når noen spør, kanskje?
 
Hvis hun svarer “takk, ikke så veldig bra”, hva vil skje da? Det er vel tvilsomt at den høflige og imøtekommende bartenderen vil gjøre saken verre? Han vil helt sikkert lytte. Kanskje hun ikke vil belaste ham med sine utfordringer? Har hun ikke krefter nok til å gå gjennom hele historien en gang til? Ikke tid nok?
 
Jeg tenker at hun kanskje prøver å holde på en fasade? Selv om blusen er litt krøllet og håret virker en anelse ustelt, kan jeg se at hun ønsker å være en fornem frue. Hun bærer dyre merkeklær og på disken ligger en eksklusiv designerveske. Er det et nederlag for henne å vise svakhet? Må hun alltid fremstå perfekt? Atmosfæren på dette høyt aktede London-hotellet oser av penger og status, og i barområdet sitter det vakre, vellykkede mennesker flere steder. Er det omgivelsene som påvirker henne? Er det de andre i baren hun spiller skuespill for? En rar følelse brer seg inni meg. Hvis hun holder på en fasade, er jeg faktisk en del av problemet…
 
Jeg nipper til glasset mitt og innser at tankene mine har fritt spillerom. Antakelig er det bare en talemåte. Vi sier “takk, bare bra” og tenker ikke mer over det. Noe må vi jo si, og hva er vel mer overfladisk enn å si at vi har det bra? Da er alt som normalt, og vi kan kommunisere uten videre anstrengelser.
 
Vi mennesker er sårbare skuespillere, og det kreves trening i å kunne stole på at vi er gode nok som vi er.
 
Et godt valg i hverdagen er å godta at livet noen ganger er i ubalanse. Du er fortsatt helt normal.
 
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